5 Ways To Conquer The Fear Of The Unknown.

                                                                  Fear is an inevitable part of our reality. We are constantly faced with situations in life where we feel the whole world is against us and caving in. There are times when everything goes smoothly for us and yet we still fill our minds with doubts and tend to ask ourselves, if whatever we are feeling at the moment will last or fade away as quickly as it occurred. We worry a lot and  sometimes, don’t allow ourselves to be in the moment and enjoy the moment.

Growing up as a child, we have so much expectations and lay out what we would like our future to look like.  Of-course, we choose all the nicest things life has to offer.  Fast forward to the future, we start having anxiety and panic attacks over the fact that our well laid out plans for the future are not going accordingly, we start the comparison game, looking at the lifestyle of some of the people we grew up with.  To conquer the fear of the unknown we must be ready to always live in the moment and enjoy what we readily have, instead of always reflecting on things that are not readily available to us and within our reach. Continue reading “5 Ways To Conquer The Fear Of The Unknown.”

8 Most Inappropriate Things Parents Should Never Do Before Their Kids.

Parents are the first source of a child’s exposure to life’s challenges. The expectations are very high  when it comes to the kind of upbringing a child gets from the parents. Therefore, any failure in this regard on the part of a parent is usually seen as a big disappointment, because it tends to always rub off wrongly and negatively on the society at large.

As the saying goes that to whom much is given, much is expected, whatever you as a parent, create and mold in terms of a child’s character, is what will be presented as a  finished canvas to the world.  Children tend to copy and emulate their parents in almost everything, especially as they see them as their heroes and role models.  This is why, we need to be very conscious with what we do and how we do things around them. When you look closely and observe the behavior of some children, you notice a bit or more of the traits and characters of their parents in them. Psychologically, children feel the need to always follow in the steps of their dads and mums, in order to receive approval for their acts and actions, which they feel will be relevant in shaping them into the person they’ll become in future.
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5 Ways To Deal With Betrayal From A Best Friend!

Who do you call a friend? My friend is someone I can call on in times of trouble and despair. A  person who has a strong shoulder for me to lean on when my feet feel weak and wobbly. A person I can share my joys, sorrows and laughter with.  A  person who is willing to take the fall for me, take the blame for me and watch my back even at  times when  I least expected it. A person who would be willing to go the extra mile with me, even when the road looks rough, dark and  lonely.

I want to call you my friend, if when I look back, I see you smiling at me, when I look at my  sides  I see you waiting patiently to lend me a hand and when I take a step forward I see  you with opened arms to give me a warm embrace. Treat me exactly the way you wish to be treated, give me the respect I deserve and give me your honest criticisms and do not patronize me in any form, yes, treat me this way and I will call you my friend.

Is it too much for me to ask you not to backbite, gossip about me, smile with me and yet laugh at me behind my back when you feel I am not watching?. Can you not try to wink at my man and try taking his number when I am not looking?.  Please do not speak badly of me to gain favours for yourself, do not dine and wine with me when you know you just finished spitting venom about me. Ask yourself why you should treat someone you call a friend like this, do you even feel any remorse or are you that insensitive? Continue reading “5 Ways To Deal With Betrayal From A Best Friend!”

Celebration Time!! MaryO-Signature Receives The Liebster Award!

My blog has just received the Liebster Award, as a recognition for good contents and quality message to our readers and subscribers. This came , totally unexpected and I was caught off-guard, in a good way of-course.  For those of you who might be wondering what a Liebster Award is, here we go! Continue reading “Celebration Time!! MaryO-Signature Receives The Liebster Award!”

7 Things You Should Avoid When Trying to Discuss Sex With Your Kids.

I remember growing up with the notion that talking or discussing about sex was almost like a crime in my household. My parents never felt the need to have this discussion with me as a child.  Looking back now, makes me smile, because I can still picture in my head how reserved and sealed lipped my mother especially was, on this topic. If ever it was brought up, a ”myth” was always used as a descriptive measure. It was almost like you were indecent if you ever engaged in such discussion.

I still feel this topic has not gained enough exposure and by this, I mean there is no  proper awareness given to  some children from the most trusted people in their lives. This may  be due  to the fact that  they are confused on how to go about it,  either because they feel their kids are still too young or they feel very awkward having the discussion with them.

As a parent myself, I must admit that it is not the simplest of discussions to have with your kids, especially now that they are easily exposed to so many things around them, ranging from the internet, television, magazines, phones, peer pressure, just to name but a few, but again, if you look at it from that perspective in a different light, you will agree with me that the earlier you have the discussion with them, the better. Now, the main question is , what is the definition of ”early”. Continue reading “7 Things You Should Avoid When Trying to Discuss Sex With Your Kids.”

5 Ways to Keep the Spark Alive After Many Years of Marriage

                                                                Marriage is the union of two minds as one, It is indeed  a beautiful thing, being married is one thing, but staying married and happy is another. It is not usually how long, but how well, I can remember how sparks flew here and there in the first few years of my marriage, how I use to feel butterflies in my stomach and how  my heart skips a beat at the mere sight of my husband.

These things quickly change over time if not well-managed and  nurtured, especially when the challenges of marriage starts setting in.  That is why, it is crucial to always try to keep the flame of love lit between you and your spouse at all times. I am going to outline 5 ways to achieve this; Continue reading “5 Ways to Keep the Spark Alive After Many Years of Marriage”

I Was Bitten, Stung And Broken.

  It is really difficult to stay afloat and keep my  head above waters, life in itself is a daily struggle, once I open my eyes to a new day, I begin to wonder what the day holds for me. No amount of planning I put in place prevents nature from contributing either positively or negatively to my day. The problems I face include: Continue reading “I Was Bitten, Stung And Broken.”

My “Go To Foundation” For A Natural Look.

It’s  time for my ladies to get in here and lets talk makeup/beauty. We are going to take a look at one  of the foundations that l  always tend to reach out for, when I’m going for a very natural look. I have used this foundation over time and can give you my honest reviews on it. If you’re the type that loves foundations, but not sure of the one to go for,  because you’re scared of coming across as too “made up ” or “cakey”. You want to wear your foundation and still look as natural as possible without feeling its weight on your skin, then, get in here. Continue reading “My “Go To Foundation” For A Natural Look.”

MASSIVE EXODUS: Igbos Flee Back To South East As Quit Notice From The North Takes Effect.

Mr Egonu Athanasius  the President of the  Igbo Market Amalgamated Traders Union has made known that some members of the union have started moving their families out of the northern states back home to the south-south and other states in the Federation in response to the ultimatum issued by the Coalition of Northern Youths.

According to him, the Igbos were moving out of the northern parts of the country in order to protect and shield their families from the threats meted out by the northern youths. This is a step taken, to guide themselves against any attack.

Athanasius pleaded with the government to treat all ethnic groups in Nigeria equally in order to forestall a revolt and also called  for the implementation of the 2014/2015 National Conference report. In his words:

“Let them treat every tribe equally. If you treat Igbo man with equal right, Igbo man will not revolt against you. If you treat Hausa man with equal right, Hausa Man will not revolt against you. Equally, a Yoruba  man and we are one Nation”.

Northern Youth Gives Ultimatum to Igbos And Are Backed By Kano Lawmaker.

    Aminu Suleiman who is a member of the House of Representatives has lent his support for the recent call by the Coalition Of Northern Youths,  giving all the igbos three months to vacate northern Nigeria or be forcefully made to leave.

He retorted that the eastern part of the country have practically held the country Nigeria to ransom, through their constant  threats of secessions and other unacceptable activities. According to the law-maker;

“I have read  the statement of the Northern Youth Coalition. I  may not completely say I share their vision a hundred percent, but they have found a supporter in me, because the people of the eastern Nigeria have taken this country to ransom. They have been causing serious problems  to this country, they caused the civil war, which brought backwardness in this country. They have been using provocation to attract more attention than other parts of the country”.

Aminu Suleiman, who is also the chairman of the House Committee on Tertiary Education, also expressed his disappointment concerning the call for the arrest of the northern youths by some northern elites and especially the state Governor, Nasir el-Rufai.  He further went on to say that;

“People like el-Rufai just played to the gallery. I condemn him entirely for coming out to issue arrest warrant against the northern youths. Where was el-Rufai when IPOB and other secessionist groups in the South East were calling for secession? Don’t they have Governors? Don’t they have elders? Why didn’t they caution them.