Did i just say perfect! Well, let me start by saying that you can only find perfection in your imperfections, if you search and work hard at it. Many years ago, if I was told, I would be a housewife, I would have laughed out loud and said “not a chance in hell”.
I had always dreamt of being the very one who would give orders in offices, have many staffs to work with, wake up early to go to work, dress very official and all that. I guess life has a way of restructuring whatever plans we sometimes set in place.
Here I am today, a housewife of over 14years. When I sometimes look back, I laugh at myself, shake my head and thank God for my life. So many people have their different perspectives and views when it comes to this very sensitive topic, yes, I say sensitive because there are lots of controversies surrounding it.
There are people who are of the opinion that housewives are women who have been stripped off their rights and integrity by their spouses. Whenever I hear or read these comments, I wonder and say to myself that people draw up conclusions from either what they’ve experienced, read, seen or from pure ignorance.
I believe the decision for a woman to be a housewife even with her great educational background/qualifications is solely a decision between her and spouse, which must come with a lot of understanding on the part of the woman and a lot of genuine convincing promises on the part of the man.
This is where the perfection comes in, a woman forced into being a housewife can never give her best, just as with any other profession. The man must be in a position to fulfill all understandings, reached and agreed upon by both parties and the woman, must also be ready to play her own part. Perfection starts creeping in if given a chance and usually in a gradual process. There are times when you ask yourself “how did I get into this” and there are times you say “I will never trade this for the whole world”.
I find being a housewife very interesting and fulfilling, though, there are times I get so bored purely out of the fact that i allow my mind to drift afar and think of other things i could have been doing with my life. I have learnt to be at peace with my decisions and this is also where your partner needs to come in every now and then, to reassure you, continuously show his support and unwavering love, which must be reciprocated.
Life in general isn’t rosy, so don’t expect yours to be, always try to draw up a plan for each new day, look at the brighter side of life and always learn to see positivity even in the face of adversary, because challenges will always knock at your door. Learning to be at peace within myself and facing all the challenges with wisdom and understanding, which can only be gotten through patience and perseverance by the special grace of God, is what has made me found perfection in being a housewife.
Are you a housewife like me? What are your perspectives and views on this topic? Let us rub minds on this and inspire one another.